Tonight I am meeting DH. We have agreed to get together and try to talk through our needs and negotiate. I am bricking it. Not because I don’t want to but because it has taken me a month to get to this. I don’t want to blow it, to get cross and angry and storm out. If this doesn’t work I am truly in trouble or going to be £20,000 worse off if we need to go to court.
Tonight is going to be so difficult not because I am unreasonable or want more than I need but because this is personal for DH. He is bitter and sees this as a cage fight between two adults. At no point does he think about what the children need or that my role as the main carer deserves financial support. Our last conversation when discussing housing needs ended when DH said you can live in Sittingbourne!
I know when this is all done I will be richer, not financially but emotionally. So right now I have to prepare myself for a difficult conversation where I know nothing I say will be acceptable but hope we can find a middle ground.